Who Really Knows What A Man Is Thinking?

That's an interesting question. I know there are many people who go to school for years to become psychiatrists or psychologists so they can be known as an expert on what someone is thinking. Now while I don't claim to be one of those people (aka doctors), I do feel that I'm quite qualified to speak on the state of the male mind. Not because I'm very well educated but because I observe people, analyze their decisions, and ultimately because I've experienced quite a lot in my short 26 years on this earth.

It's humorous to me when I hear females say that they "know men". Well, really unless you're one of those few I spoke of earlier.....I'd like to inform you....you don't really know men! It's a difficult task to get into the head of a man because while men as a whole are very much alike.....we're all very different too! I guess what I'm getting at is that I've heard many many women voice their thoughts about what hurts a man's feelings, what a woman needs to do to get into man's heart, and how to really figure out a man's inner workings; so they don't actually need any help. I actually had one woman email me and blast me for writing an article in which I voiced my opinion on some things that women need to stop doing or start doing in order to save their relationships or find a new relationship. Her exact words were...."us women don't need a man telling us what we should or shouldn't be doing in order to be happy...what can a man actually help a woman with?" In response I hit her with, "it's sad that you feel that way....and the reason I say its sad is because of your pride. (I read some of your tweets), and you like a lot of women need assistance getting out of your own way. And besides, wouldn't it be better to get some insight into the male psyche instead of listening to your bitter girlfriends who are in the same situation as you and who likely want you to stay single since they are too? But what do I know?"

Bottom line....we all need each other to learn the opposite sex so we can navigate through this thing called life and find someone to share it with. So to answer the question posed earlier.....only someone who knows the true inner workings of the male brain and what drives/motivates them is capable of letting any woman know what her man or any man is really thinking.

Anyway, I'm taking questions about the male mind, or even if you need a guy's actions explained to you; I can do that for you through my email. Knourworth@hotmail.com or I can be contacted on Twitter at @JSmith2523.

Remember....."You're Worth It"

Today's Doctor's Visit

My wife and I had a doctor's visit this morning to check on the progress of our baby. I'm happy to say that everything is going very well. The doctor said that the baby is growing and developing nicely and appears to be quite healthy. As of yesterday we are 6 1/2 months into the pregnancy and our baby (Javan) is about 14 inches long (from the crown of his head to his butt) and weighs just over 2 pounds.

To tell you the truth....I'm slightly nervous, but at the same time....extremely excited! Just knowing that there's a "mini-me" growing inside my wife ready to grace us with his presence in a few months puts a constant smile on my face! I know the whole process won't be easy, and there will be some times when we'll struggle....but overall, we'll be ok, including the fact that we have great friends and amazing family who'll be there to support us!

To see this little guy developing before my eyes, touches me very deeply and makes me wonder how anyone could ever walk away from their child who looks like them and even at times acts like them??? I keep thinking about 1 Timothy 5:8, where it says, "Certainly if anyone does not provide for those who are his own, and especially those who are members of HIS household, he has disowned the faith and is worse than a person without faith." I don't have all the answers, but I know.....I won't be that man!!!

Besides.....who could walk away from this face???



Remember......"You're Worth It"!

J. Earl Smith
@JSmith2523 on Twitter
www.smashwords.com/books/view/24495

What's Happening with Today's Youth?

I heard a disturbing news report this morning about a high school in Memphis Tennessee named Frayser High School. Now, no one has been shot, this story was not another Columbine situation, but it kind of surprised me when I heard the school's motto, which is...."Excellence is our expectation.....No excuses!" That's not the shocking part. What shocked me is that in this particular high school (which has an enrollment of 800 students) there are currently 90 that's right NINETY young ladies (in this current school year) who have recently given birth or who are currently expecting a child!!!

That's a pretty staggering number....90 out of 800 is 11.25% of the school attendance! Are we so clueless as parents or as administrators in the school that we don't see the signs of a growing problem? Where were the parents in this debacle? Where were the administrators or guidance counselors in helping this young women to make smarter decisions? Now, don't get me wrong....this isn't and CAN'T be put only on the young women. As a young black man, whose wife is expecting their first child, I can't help but be embarrassed by and ashamed of the young men who were/are involved in this epidemic.

Ask yourself....when you were in high school....how many people did you know that had jobs and could support a child? I think about the few girls who got pregnant in my high school and they had no idea what they were going to do! They had no plan, they were children having children. This is the same thing happening in this small area of Frayser. Think about the areas where the unemployment rate is rather high, such as Memphis, TN (9.7% unemployment as of November 2010), do you think these kids have any clue as to how they're going to care for a newborn??? I seriously doubt it! I'm 26 years old, and my wife and myself are expecting our first child about a month before our five year anniversary, and to tell you the truth....I have no clue what I'm doing, but I have a job, I have a house, and I'm in a better position to bring a child into this world.

What would possess anyone to have unprotected sex and get pregnant (some as young as 14 or 15 years old)? Again, I ask.....where were the parents? Where were the role models to help these kids learn that if they're going to have sex (which at 15 they shouldn't be anyway) that they should definitely be protected? Aside from the possibility of someone getting pregnant, what about the deadly incurable diseases that are running rampant in this world today? According to www.worldaidsday.org, over 430,000 children under the age of 15 were infected with HIV in the year 2007 alone! And one could only imagine that those numbers have gone up drastically in the last 3-4 years!!!

We have to do better as a people. Not just as black people, but as people in general! The future of our children depend on it. We have to be better tuned in with our children and know what's going on in their lives. We can't try to be their best friends, we have a responsibility as PARENTS to be just that......PARENTS!

Remember......"You're Worth It!"

J. Earl Smith

@JSmith2523 on Twitter

knourworth@hotmail.com

www.smashwords.com/books/view/24495.

Don't Play His Roll

It's funny to me when I hear these so-called relationship experts and matchmakers say that women need to change who they are or start acting like a man in order to find love. I mean, really think about that concept. Why would God have created men and women with such different emotional makeups, if he intended, all of us to be exactly the same? What fun would it be, if we all thought the exact same way?

There'd be no variety, and life would be an intense shade of boredom. I mean really, why should women need to learn to be "like" a man, in order to land one??? In my opinion, if a woman has to be more like a man in order to catch the attention of a man, then couldn't the argument be made that he may have actually been searching for a man!!! That may not be politically correct to say, but that's how I feel. No woman should have to compromise her emotional makeup in an attempt to feel more connected to a man. Chances are....if that's what a "man" is looking for....he's looking for someone who's equipped the same way he is.

It breaks my heart when I see young women having to play roll of mommy and daddy at the same time. Having to lose some of that femininity within themselves in order to assure that if they're raising a boy, he turns into a MAN!!! This is a difficult situation for any woman to find herself in; especially since this isn't the roll that God designed for women (but we'll get into that another time).

Overall ladies....don't allow yourselves to be changed and transform into something you weren't meant to be. This goes for those ladies out there who allow themselves to be turned into the head of the household, primary breadwinner, and decision maker, while some good for nothing guy mooches off their hard work.

Remember....."You're Worth It"
@JSmith2523 on Twitter
www.knourworth.blogspot.com
www.smashwords.com/books/view/24495

New Year.....New Horizons!

So far this new year is looking very promising.

My wife and I are doing good, her pregnancy is moving along nicely....she's due in May. We're having a little boy....which is exactly what I wanted. A little "mini-me"...I'm very excited! 2011 is going to be a great year not only for me, but for my family.

I'm getting more responsibility at my job, pay increases are happening this month, and I should be able to have the re-write to my book completed/ready for publishing and ready to be available for sale on amazon.com.

I think this is the most excited I've been for the start of a new year in a VERY long time.

Also with 2011, I'm planning on keeping this blog up to date more, filling it with even more interesting articles that can help anyone with their relationship, as well as developing it into even more than it currently is, in order to get "into the hands" of more readers and gain more followers.

Hope everyone else's 2011, is starting off as good as mine, and if it's not.....you have the power to make it better!

Remember......"You're Worth It!"

J. Earl Smith

@JSmith2523 on Twitter

knourworth@hotmail.com

www.smashwords.com/books/view/24495.

Love.....a Criterion for Happiness?

Is love truly necessary to be happy in life?

In my opinion.....emphatically.....YES! Now that's not to say that you have to be married or anything like that. But in some way shape or form, love is a necessity in everyone's life in order to be genuinely happy. Whether that love be from a spouse, children, parents, or even closest friends. What are the reasons why some form of love is such an important thing to have in life?

Think about the loving bond you had with your mother growing up. She was there for you, cared for you when you got hurt or were sick and was there to help you go through the challenges you incurred growing up. From a father's love you feel protected, cared and provided for and taught many important life lessons to help you develop into a responsible adult. Without that love....where would you be right now? Without the love your parents have for each other....where would you be right now?

What about those who have children? Isn't the love you have for your child that motivates you to get up EVERYDAY and go to a job you probably don't enjoy to make sure you continue to provide for that child? Isn't it your love for that child that keeps you sacrificing your wants for their needs?

All humans have the capacity to love one another. It's just all to common for many to overlook their need for love in their lives because their chasing money, fame, or some other secular achievements....which are all fine in their own right. But what do they really mean if you're not able to share those successes with someone??? Despite what anyone says.....NO ONE wants to grow old ALONE. When the time comes....NO ONE wants to spend their last day or hours of life by themselves....EVERYONE wants to be cared for, surrounded by those dearest to them....LOVED!

Despite the bombardment we endure on a daily basis being told through the media that MORE is what we need to be truly happy......MORE money, MORE gadgets, MORE fun. I'm not a gambling man, but I'd be willing to bet if you were able to poll the ten wealthiest people on the Forbes list.....the general consensus wouldn't be that they're truly happy because of their money. Think about the type of worry being worth that much causes. And if you don't believe that there is any increased worry from being a millionaire.....just take a look at the continually rising cases of suicide amongst millionaires/billionaires.....research Adolf Merckle.

Everyone has the capacity for love.....it's just a matter of determining whether it's of importance to you!

Remember...."You're Worth It"

J. Earl Smith

@JSmith2523 on Twitter

knourworth@hotmail.com

www.smashwords.com/books/view/24495.

Knee News

Starting to get a little more flexibility on my knee. Probably still about 3-4 weeks out from getting full range of motion back and full stability. Getting a little antsy because I'm ready to get back to working out. I have to lose some weight before this baby is born.

Remember......"You're Worth It!"
J. Earl Smith
@JSmith2523 on Twitter
knourworth@hotmail.com
www.smashwords.com/books/view/24495