I heard this brought up as an issue on a popular NY radio morning show. There was a young black woman who was being cheated on by her husband. The husband was cheating on his wife with a white woman and had fathered a little boy with her, while he and his wife had no children but were trying to start a family. Initially I really felt sorry for the wife who was being cheated on because her husband's extra marital affair had been going on for over two years. But my pity and compassion for the embittered wife quickly turned to dismay upon her reaction...not in anger, not toward her unfaithful husband but toward his mistress! And her anger wasn't simply from the heartbreak of being cheated on, her anger toward the woman took an ugly hateful turn toward being racially motivated.
Although obviously angry at the situation that she's been thrust into live on national radio, her responses were uncalled for. She insinuated that all "white girls" were whores (her words not mine) who'd have sex with anyone and that because white girls will give it up to anyone, it's a possibility that any of the black players on his football team could have fathered her child!
Now I understand that she's angry....but why turn it personal against the woman who's trying to inform you that your husband has been lying to you? Was it really necessary to say that she feels "all white girls" are whores, or that they all sleep around? Not in my opinion...because that just not true, and it's incredibly inflammatory to cast such a broad generalized stereotype about a certain race of people! Now the husband that was cheating, claimed that it was a one-time thing and that he doesn't have a relationship with the "alleged" mistress. So the mistress speaks up and says "so I don't matter...we were a one-time thing, how is that when I cook for you every other night? Without hesitation, the wife jumps in..."see, now I know you lying...white girls don't cook...they only good for you know."
That whole situation got me thinking...why are there some black people so opposed to dating outside of their own race/nationality? I've been in this debate with many a person and there's nothing logical that anyone can say as to why interracial dating is wrong! I see absolutely nothing wrong with it. Why continue spreading hatred and inequality through our society...isn't there enough of that already? I interviewed a few black women that very question and I was quite surprised by the reasoning behind some of their responses. There were quite a few who felt that interracial dating/marriage was wrong or inappropriate. While none of them could give me a good explanation of their feelings, most of them had some previous personal issue with a woman or women of a different race, or they were raised to think or feel a certain way. Now me personally, I see absolutely nothing wrong with interracial dating/marriage. And when I brought up that point to these various ladies, they all responded by saying that my opinion didn't count because I married a black woman. While that is true, that's not to say that I've never dated a woman of another race. The last serious girlfriend I had before I met my wife was Italian. And there were a slew of other nationalities that I've dated in the past. I guess it's just the way I was raised. My mom instilled in me the mentality that no one is better than someone else because of their gender, race, or background! While, yes, I married a black woman, I didn't marry her because she was black, I married her because she's the woman I fell in love with. If the aforementioned Italian girl hadn't had so many emotional and family problems and wasn't looking to me to be some kind of knight in shining armor to come rescue her, who's to say that I wouldn't have fallen in love with her and things wouldn't have worked out differently.
Anyway, as I previously stated, we're in 2011. This is not 1960's Mississippi where even common amenities are segregated. Blacks and women can vote, women aren't strictly meant to be housewives, and hey there's even a black president! So if time has seen those things come to an change for the better...isn't it about time to get rid of this absolutely asinine mode of thinking that people should only date or marry within their own race?
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