Thursday, March 24, 2011

Forgiveness! Is it Warranted....if so, When?

OK, I've heard many different people voice their opinions about a popular r&b artist who apparently has temper/anger control issues. Too many people (in my opinion) are defending his actions and saying that his violent outbursts are other people's fault. I'm not saying that the line of questioning in this most recent outburst had nothing to do with it happening...but as @MrEdLover would say "C'MON SON!!!" How long are people (usually devoted fans) going to make up excuses for Chris Brown? How long is Chris Brown going to have outbursts like this and think that a simple apology on a popular music video show is going to make everything OK?

Now....as one black man to another, I'm not trying to tear down Chris Brown like some kind of "crab in a barrel", but in all honesty...with no hate involved...Chris Brown does need some serious help. His reaction to the questions that Robin Roberts asked him regarding the whole Rhianna situation on Good Morning America was totally unnecessary and inappropriate! That kind of childish temper tantrum because you don't like the kind of questions that were asked is exactly the reason why I feel that he's going to continue making bad decisions and won't reach his full potential.

Regardless of whether he was asked whether he could be questioned about that incident or not, his management team has a share in blame for this happening! It's his management team's responsibility to prepare him mentally that these are the kinds of questions you're going to get when you go on an official show like a "Good Morning America". If he didn't want to get real introspective questions....he should have gone on MTV where they would have kept the questions strictly about the album. I don't believe that Robin Roberts has any fault in the incident that happened at the Good Morning America studios on Tuesday. She was doing her job just like any one of us would have done if we were asking the questions. So everyone trying to throw blame toward Ms. Roberts....please STOP!

But this leads me to another issue...where are the positive older black men that can and should be mentoring Chris Brown during this difficult time? I understand that there's a certain level of anger in most every black man for the difficult times that we face and the unequal treatment that we tend to receive, even when we're told that we're being given equal opportunities. Everyone knows that equal opportunity doesn't necessarily define itself and isn't exactly self-explanatory, but that's a whole other issue. What I'm getting at is this....where are the positive black men in the entertainment industry who could sit down with Chris Brown and help him really get his anger issues under control? I think about the way that former NFL Coach Tony Dungy reached out to and was there for Michael Vick during his trials and re-entrance back into society. And we all see how that's worked out. Vick is playing great football and has kept his nose clean for the most part, and part of that credit should go to Coach Dungy for his help in tutoring Vick how to grow up and be a man as well as how to keep those negative influences out of his life. Dungy also helped Vick learn how to react when posed with those difficult questions even when he didn't really want to answer those questions.

Bottom line....Chris Brown needs to find his Tony Dungy! Maybe Russell Simmons can help Brown the way Dungy helped Vick. Simmons sat down with Chris Brown on Wednesday night and spoke with him on various subjects. Hopefully Simmons taking an interest in Brown will lead to some positive character improvements in Brown that can help keep his name out of the limelight for the wrong reasons.


I do believe that forgiveness is warranted....but the offender's actions must show that it's deserved!

Remember...."You're Worth It"




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