Keeping an Ex as a friend.....

I've heard many different people's opinions on this topic over the last few years. And I've come to the conclusion that there is no one right way of handling a situation like this. For some, having an ex remain a friend of theirs isn't too big of a deal....to others it's a huge deal. There are various reasons that each of these groups of people feel this way.

I personally don't think that it's necessarily the best idea to keep an ex around as a friend....because there's always that sneaking possibility that they're coming back into your life now as a result of things not going well in theirs. I've seen this first hand with people I know. And a few of them didn't handle the situation in a good way....and it eventually ruined their current relationship.

First and foremost, if an ex contacts you.....it'd probably be best to make it known what your parameters are for communicating with them. Let them know that they can't call you after certain hours....and that communication can't be too frequent. On top of that, certain topics HAVE to be steered away from. If they truly want to just be friends....they should understand that and have no problems adhering to your stipulations. If they can't do that...or voice problems with your boundaries....then you might want to re-evaluate whether or not it's worth trying to maintain that friendship.

It's sad to say but there are alot of people out there that would try to use "rekindling a friendship" as a devisive/back door way to come between you and your partner.....keep your eyes open....don't always listen to what's said, anyone can say the right things to try to pull on the strings of your heart....actions always speak louder than words! And if they act like it bothers them that you're happy in your relationship....then they're not a true friend.....ARE THEY???

Remember.....You're Worth It.

J. Earl Smith.