Know A Real Man When You Have One

It's been a while since I've posted anything....been putting finishing touches on my book...which should be available in stores and online in the very NEAR future. Sorry for taking too long to come back.

Now to the topic of this post.

I got a phone call from a friend of mine yesterday that I hadn't spoken to in a while. He told me some sad news. He told me that he and his wife (with whom he has 2 kids, both under the age of 5) were no longer together and were in the process of getting a divorce. I have to admit that they had issues in their relationship a long time ago, even before they were married, but things were looking up for them or so I thought. They fought through so much to get things right and get their relationship back on track while she was pregnant with their first child. Then they got married and things appeared to actually be on the right track....then came baby #2. Another little rough patch hit....but they seemed to have matured and were able to work through it.

So when I get that call yesterday informing me that they're no longer together and that she left him and the 2 kids to get back with her high school boyfriend!!!! I WAS SHOCKED!!!! I just don't get how someone who fought so hard to save a relationship can decide so easily that they don't want to be a mother or married anymore. That's right.....I said it.....she left him and the kids!

The thing that gets me the most is.....how good of a guy he actually is. They had a baby together before they were married and while there are ALOT of "good for nothing" losers out there who would've left and say "the baby was HER responsibility"....he didn't do that....even if they hadn't gotten married....he still was going to be there...he had already made that decision! He was going to handle his responsibility!

He worked two (2) jobs to provide for the family so that she didn't have to work and there could be one parent home with the kids full time. I'm not saying that he deserves a whole lot of praise for doing what any father should be doing, but at least he deserved to be shown some appreciation. Don't you think?

Maybe someone can answer this question for me....Why is it that the baby daddy's who consistently do nothing to provide for their children but then come to their senses and actually step up ONCE.....get praised like they're the FATHER OF THE FREAKIN YEAR? While a father (not a baby daddy) who's there as a parent day in and day out gets no credit or respect? THAT'S SOME BULL$H!T!!!!

My friend and I had a good conversation and he's doing well....he's handling his responsibilities as he's always done and will continue to do! The worst thing about the whole situation is that his soon to be ex-wife is not even still with the guy she left him for. HOW F'D UP IS THAT!!!!

There are good men out there who step up and handle their responsibilities! This may come off sounding like a man who's looking for credit for doing exactly what he should be, but for all those who have a good man at home, who's consistently there for them and or their children.....hold on to that guy because you don't know where or when the next GOOD MAN might come along!!!!

Keep ya heads up and your hearts open!!!!
J. Earl Smith
@JSmith2523 on twitter